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Naturism & parenting

As you all know, I didn’t grew up with naturism. But when I heard in December of 2014 that I was gonna be a father, it was very clear to me that naturism was gonna be a big part of how I was raising my daughter. When I look at young families on resorts like Flevonatuur, I notice a lot of differences between children growing up with naturism and children growing up without it. I’ll try to describe those differences and explain why I think it’s important that children, the future keepers of this planet, should get involved with naturism. 


Now, I know that for a lot of people this will be a no-go subject. It’s not. If you read all my previous blogs or did some research about naturism in general, you’ll know that naturism doesn’t harm anyone. This goes for normal social nudity like on the nude beaches aswell. One of the biggest things naturism can teach kids is that everyone is the same. When you look at schools, not only today but for centuries, kids get bullied for the strangest reasons. How they look, what kind of clothes they wear, when they wear glasses, when they stutter.  Things, when they don’t have a strong personality, can bother them the rest of their lives. 


Two of the biggest reasons children bully other children are group pressure and insecurity about themselves. As long as they draw the attention to someone else, they won’t get bullied themselves. Not realizing what it does to the other kid. We’ve all heard the stories about children in the age of 12,13 taking their own lives due the bullying. Unfortunately they couldn’t turn the bullying in something positive like I could when I was 14. Still it took me 4 years for completely accepting myself. And even now I have some short moments of insecurity. 


Now, this blog is called Naturism & parenting and all I’ve been talking about so far is bullying. I’ll explain why. The way children behave, starts with the parents. It’s a bit the same as with swearing. It’s all copy behavior. When they see their parents make fun of someone who’s fat for instance, there’s a big chance they will do that aswell. Something to keep in mind if you’re a parent. Because you can tell your kids a thousand times it’s not nice to make fun of someone, but they will only have to see you do it once to think it’s okay behavior. It’s not. I said I noticed some big differences between ” textile kids ” and children on a naturist resort. I think the biggest difference is that no one is getting bullied. On the first day they arrive with their parents they already made friends for the rest of their vacation. Everyone is accepted and no one is left out. A real blessing to witness something like that in real life. You guys all know what I think of today’s society so watching in real life that it isn’t always like the outside world was a real eye opener. 


I told Santana from the beginning that I’m using naturism in how I raise my daughter. And if we get lucky enough to have some kids next to my daughter they will be raised with it aswell. I’ve talked to some naturist parents online and there were a few that were frustrated, mad or even disappointed in their own kids when they stopped living the naked lifestyle when they hit puberty. In my eyes that’s completely the wrong reaction towards your children and it shows that those parents have no clue what’s going on in their children’s life’s. We call people that combine nudity with something sexual narrow minded, but parents that don’t understand why their son or daughter doesn’t want to be naked all day are narrow minded aswell. Puberty means a lot of changes. And not only to their body in the visual point of view but also their place on this world, their look at the world, their interests, taste, everything. Them not being naked doesn’t mean they’re not naturist anymore. They are still the person that respects other people. They’re still the person that respects nature. They’re still the person that will help someone in trouble. Them being clothed doesn’t mean they forgotten all about the other beautiful values naturism taught us. Don’t focus on the naked part and support them instead of forcing them to go naked. Keep teaching them the importance of body acceptance and respecting other people. By putting the focus on nudity only you’ll only make things worse and probably chase them away from this beautiful life style. Communicate with your children. Learn what’s going on in their heads and life’s. It will help you understand them and give you a clear sight of what’s going on. Once you do that, you’ll see that they get back to the naked lifestyle aswell. Try to see our nudity as a given bonus to our lifestyle but don’t let it be the center of it. Nudity has to be something you look forward to after a long day at work or school. Don’t let it be an obligation. Don’t let them think they’re less loved when wearing clothes. The distance between you and your kids will grow by that and naturism will slowly die because there won’t be any new generations. 

Something to think about. ❤️

Standaard

8 gedachtes over “Naturism & parenting

  1. Naturism lover zegt:

    Nice piece, thanks for sharing it with us.

    I’m a parent as well, my kids are currently only in their first years of life. We deliberately chose a naturist park and a normal clothed park this year. That way we wouldn’t stay that long (in case they really dislike it) and there is a good comparison between the two.

    At home we are often naked, also in the garden. We get home, undress and mind our own business. My kids are the same, though one of them likes to wear underwear every so often, which is totally fine with me. The rule in this house is people can be clothed (or not) as they please unless there are visitors. Also answering the door is only allowed with clothes on, out of respect for the one behind the door that may have different beliefs. Last holiday they both undressed with us and only used a bathrobe a few times because it was (relatively) cold and rainy outside. They showed no reluctance meeting others near the pool who were, like them, fully naked. The first time in the shop they asked if they could stay unclothed. As we went in that way, it was perfectly normal for them.

    After the first week we left to go home for the weekend. The week after that we were in a clothed park instead where they had to wear at least shorts and a shirt and obviously swimming clothes in the pool. They disliked it as they got used to be unclothed in the water, at first that is, because the next day it was already accepted and “normal” again.

    After that week when we were at home I asked both individually which park they liked the most. They replied the liked them both, they would love to spend next year at a naturist park, preferably with animation we enjoyed last week. That’s kind of hard to find as I noticed when looking for such a site on the internet. We will try though. If they have to choose, for now, the verdict is they rather lose animation then having to be clothed all holiday long.

    Obviously that may change over time, specially when puberty comes around the corner. We’ll see. They often ask about penises, vaginas, breasts and so on. I try to answer them as best as I can while teaching them to respect themselves and others at all times. It’s normal for kids to ask questions like that, they want to know how windmills (we have a lot of those in our facinity), it’s only expected they ask questions about anything else they encounter. In the process they sometimes unintentionally disrespect others, for example when they ask why so and so has a big belly or hair under their arms. I explain the differences between people and how to be respectful about the matter. I always allow them to ask, even if it can be difficult for others. People with a big belly are just that, people with a belly that is (slightly) larger then what they are used to (even though mine is not so small either). We should not be overprotective of others, but explain why everyone is different and how it could hurt insecure people by calling out those differences. I think they get it, also others seem to welcome our explanation instead of getting mad.

    Lastly, I been accused of child abuse for letting my kids be naked around myself and others. Even though I was not able to convince everyone, I would like to say this; learning to address the things on your mind and be open and respectful about it is a skill many kids lack. And those that think nudity equals sex, no it does not. On the contrary, I have seen many things in clothed swimming pools that raised questions to my kids, which I never got while swimming in a pool on a naturist park. Just read this blog or go look around on the web, nudity has nothing to do with sex, naturism teaches respect and joy in a way that is hard to reproduce in the clothed world. Expectations are different, you cannot tell the difference in social status when everyone is unclothed. That to me is the way it should be.

    Thanks again for this nice article and the rest of the blog.

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