Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 4: The busy life of a naturist blogger


Hi people, first of all sorry for the silence these last couple of days. Therefor I will talk about last weekend and the weekend before. Let’s start with the weekend from September 17th. This also was the deadline date to send in your photos for the #TeamNaturistphotochallenge on Twitter. 


Our first idea was to make the photos a weekend earlier, but that weekend we had some personal stuff on our minds and so many other stuff to do that we simply didn’t have the time. We explained to Björ ( founder of #TeamNaturist ) and promised we would send our pictures before the deadline. 


Because it’s very busy at work I didn’t arrive at home on Friday the 16th but on Saturday the 17th. Yes, deadline day. Luckily the pictures were good enough and Björ was able to finish his project. We’re very proud to be a part of it. If you’re interested in other projects of him, like the #TeamNaturistCalender, make sure to follow @IbanSaram on Twitter. We didn’t do a lot together the rest of that weekend because Santana was working both days. The Sunday I took the time to strip one of our bedrooms. Because my mom was so nice to help me I couldn’t do it in the nude, but on the other hand, it gave us a good chance to catch up after not seeing eachother for a while. I had a lovely time with her. So far that weekend. 


And now last weekend. A little less busy, but still very short. For the 3rd weekend in a row I arrived home on a Saturday. My ex already brought my daughter the evening before, so when I came home my 2 favorite ladies were waiting for me.  Well waiting… one was. My daughter was taking a nap haha. Santana made some sandwiches and soup, so after eating that together we went upstairs to check out the big photo we ordered for our bedroom. Santana is moving in December of this year, so when her bed is here we’re gonna hang it up above it. If it fits. The photo is 160cm x 120cm. In the picture of it below, you can see that our heads in the picture are 2 times the size of our real heads lol. 


At that same time my daughter woke up and we decided to go in town to get some stuff. We bought a baby fence to place in front of the stairs,because since a few weeks my daughter can walk/climb the stairs. We also bought some paint for one of the bedrooms, a nice lamp and we expended some toys of my daughter with some extra features. Which was a hell of a job to put together when at the same time my daughter was demolishing it like some baby Godzilla. It was already in the end of the afternoon so  I started making my famous macaroni while Santana was feeding my daughter. After dinner we took a shower and brought my daughter to bed. We watched some tv and both very tired, we also went to bed. 


The next day we woke up around 9am. We stayed in bed for a while and had some fun with my daughter. Then we decided to go downstairs and have some breakfast. 


After breakfast, we got dressed, packed our things and stepped in to the car. We were going to Amsterdam to have a look at a couch we both like a lot. The couch we’re having now is broken at some points and badly needs replacement.  There are a lot of roadworks in the Netherlands at the moment, so after a longer ride then we expected on a Sunday, we arrived at the furniture store in Amsterdam. The couch was amazing and very comfortable. We now have a week to think about it and when we decide to buy it, I’ll be going to Amsterdam again to make the arrangements for the transport. 


After checking out the couch we were planning to visit the black market in a place called Beverwijk, but because we lost so many time on our way to Amsterdam we decided to skip that and go to my parents. We already made plans with them earlier, so with us arriving sooner then planned before, we would all have a chance to catch up. We made a small pit stop at the ” Afsluitdijk “, which is very famous in the Netherlands and over the world. Santana had never been there so it was a great opportunity to visit it. After that we drove passed the town where I was born. I showed her the house where I was born, the house where I grew up from age 4 till 14 and I showed her my junior school. We filled up the tank and drove towards my parents. 


My parents were very happy we arrived earlier and were amazed by how much my daughter was grown in the past weeks. They still have some of the old toys from my brother, my sister and me so it was a very nostalgic day for me. I showed my daughter the duplo I used to play with and man, that really has evolved the last 24 years. When I look at her duplo and then look at mine…well let’s put it this way… I was born 20 years to soon. What a blessing to have a kid for yourself and be able to play with this toys without any shame. I really enjoy those moments with my daughter. 


We had some nice talks with my parents and after dinner I brought my daughter to bed because she would be spending the night there. We had some coffee and then it was time to go back home. 

Again, sorry it took so long, I hope I’m having more time to write very soon. Thanks for your patience and I hope you enjoyed this next chapter of Diary of a home naturist.

Talk to you guys soon ❤️

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Santana's POV at life

Sharing my naturist lifestyle

Santana is back with another story about her life. This time she’ll be talking about reactions from her loved ones, after they found out that she started the naturist lifestyle and the way that she shares that with the world. Enjoy reading her story, I found a nice quote online which describes her story pretty good. 


As you all have seen already, Harmen and I take a lot of pictures of our naturist lifestyle. We share these photos with friends and family but with other naturists aswell. We do this to promote naturism and to show how nice it is to be a naturist. 


Unfortunately this isn’t accepted by everyone. Especially by some of my friends and family. Because Harmen is naturist for a big part of his life, most people that are close to him don’t ask questions about why he does what he does. Me however, am new to this naturist lifestyle and some of my friends and family are having troubles seeing me live this lifestyle. It’s hard for them to accept it, especially that I share nude pictures of myself with the world. My ” best ” friend gave up on our friendship when she found out that I was naturist and made pictures of it. She didn’t want to be confronted with it and was afraid my pictures would be used for other things. 


I could discuss it as much as I wanted to, but I couldn’t convince her that this lifestyle really made me happy. Until the moment I told her that naturists online are the same as on the nude beach or in the swimming pool. I said it was the ultimate feeling of freedom for me and that I really accepted myself because of it. Something she knew I never did before. I always thought I was fat and ugly. She was happy for me that I felt that way but again pointed out that she wasn’t happy with the photos online. I didn’t bother to start the discussion again and let it be. 


My family shares this opinion with her. They also think I shouldn’t put my photos on the Internet. Especially my father doesn’t like it at all. He knows Harmen and I take a lot of photos and it’s on a regular base that he scrolls thru my photos to see what kind of photos we made. He really doesn’t like us sharing it with the world but he accepts it. Simply because Harmen and I explained that we only do it to promote naturism. ( so not because we like to show our naked bodies so badly ). My father doesn’t speak or read English so he has never read one of Harmen his blogs. Other people do and they tell my father that there are new nude photos of me online. Something that bothers him a lot, so much that he forbid me to place anymore photos online. 

He was afraid the pictures would be used on porn websites. Well I really don’t know why porn websites would use our photos, because there’s no sexual vibe around them whatsoever. I was at Harmens place when he forbid me to place the pictures. I told him I would stop and that we would talk about it when I was back home ( we didn’t make any new photos untill that conversation ). A few days later I got home and talked with my father. I told him that we felt good sharing these photos and that the reactions were overwhelming positive. There were already photos of us online so I didn’t see the point of stopping making new ones. I told him that we wouldn’t stop doing what we do and that if people had any issues with it, they could contact us or block us. 

The family from my fathers side shares his opinion. I told them the same thing I told my father. I’m not gonna change for them. I’m happy with the life I’m living and that includes photos. People that have troubles with it can easily block me or don’t read the blogs. We did however decide to keep the pictures on Facebook on a minimum as a sign of respect towards my family. My mother by the way, doesn’t bother it at all. She tells me several times that I have nothing to be ashamed of, that I’m beautiful and that the blogs are awesome to read. Anyway, I thought this was a very interesting subject. What do you think? And does it sound familiar? What was your reaction when friends and family had issues with your nude photos and/or naturist lifestyle? Let us know. 


Love Santana ❤️

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Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 3: Family values

Wow, this was one amazing weekend. I arrived Saturday morning in holland with the ferry from Killingholme to Hoek van Holland after a beautiful trip to Wales. I’ve never been there before so it’s another country that I can get of my checklist. I unloaded some stuff at our company, hooked up another trailer and drove back home with the truck. This isn’t something I always do, but since I have to unload today in the north of the Netherlands it was the best thing to take the truck with me. 


Because I was home around 1 pm and my ex had plans around 2 pm, she brought my daughter to my parents. So after having some breakfast together, we drove to my parents, who live 45 minutes away from me. As some of you already read on Twitter, my daughter walks since last week and it was amazing to see it in real life. There are so much feelings running thru your body when you can see that, it’s hard to describe. We had some coffee, had a nice chat with my parents and then hurried back home because I had to get a haircut and it was already 4pm. After the haircut we went to my girlfriends parents because it was her moms birthday. It was great to see her family again and we had a lovely evening. 


The next day we woke up around 8.30 am. Had some breakfast and enjoyed our naked time. While Santana started with the laundry, I took the time to clean up the living room because later that day my brother and my parents would come to visit. They’re not naturists and because we’re not the kind of people that want to force our naked bodies to people that don’t live the same way as we do, we only had these few hours to enjoy our lifestyle. Surely, you could say they could respect us for our lifestyle and should accept it. They do. They really do. But that doesn’t mean they want to be confronted with it. And we respect that. And even though my brother told me later that day, that he read some of my blogs aswell, we still cover up out of respect. It doesn’t bother us because again, naturism is so much more. 


After some lovely hours with my family, it was time to get started with cooking. My brother left and about 30 minutes later my parents left aswell. Because we had to bring my daughter back to my ex after diner, we didn’t undress anymore and enjoyed our meal. Because it’s very rare I have the truck at home ( this was the 3rd or 4th time in 6 months time ), I took the opportunity to shoot some photos of my daughter with the truck. Then we drove her back to her mom, had some coffee over there and then went back home. The weekend came to an end. 


Now it’s Monday, 6.22 am and I’m already working for an hour. The new workweek has officially started and I can’t wait till Friday to hug my lovely lady again. Talk to you guys soon ❤️. 

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My POV at life

Naturism & parenting

As you all know, I didn’t grew up with naturism. But when I heard in December of 2014 that I was gonna be a father, it was very clear to me that naturism was gonna be a big part of how I was raising my daughter. When I look at young families on resorts like Flevonatuur, I notice a lot of differences between children growing up with naturism and children growing up without it. I’ll try to describe those differences and explain why I think it’s important that children, the future keepers of this planet, should get involved with naturism. 


Now, I know that for a lot of people this will be a no-go subject. It’s not. If you read all my previous blogs or did some research about naturism in general, you’ll know that naturism doesn’t harm anyone. This goes for normal social nudity like on the nude beaches aswell. One of the biggest things naturism can teach kids is that everyone is the same. When you look at schools, not only today but for centuries, kids get bullied for the strangest reasons. How they look, what kind of clothes they wear, when they wear glasses, when they stutter.  Things, when they don’t have a strong personality, can bother them the rest of their lives. 


Two of the biggest reasons children bully other children are group pressure and insecurity about themselves. As long as they draw the attention to someone else, they won’t get bullied themselves. Not realizing what it does to the other kid. We’ve all heard the stories about children in the age of 12,13 taking their own lives due the bullying. Unfortunately they couldn’t turn the bullying in something positive like I could when I was 14. Still it took me 4 years for completely accepting myself. And even now I have some short moments of insecurity. 


Now, this blog is called Naturism & parenting and all I’ve been talking about so far is bullying. I’ll explain why. The way children behave, starts with the parents. It’s a bit the same as with swearing. It’s all copy behavior. When they see their parents make fun of someone who’s fat for instance, there’s a big chance they will do that aswell. Something to keep in mind if you’re a parent. Because you can tell your kids a thousand times it’s not nice to make fun of someone, but they will only have to see you do it once to think it’s okay behavior. It’s not. I said I noticed some big differences between ” textile kids ” and children on a naturist resort. I think the biggest difference is that no one is getting bullied. On the first day they arrive with their parents they already made friends for the rest of their vacation. Everyone is accepted and no one is left out. A real blessing to witness something like that in real life. You guys all know what I think of today’s society so watching in real life that it isn’t always like the outside world was a real eye opener. 


I told Santana from the beginning that I’m using naturism in how I raise my daughter. And if we get lucky enough to have some kids next to my daughter they will be raised with it aswell. I’ve talked to some naturist parents online and there were a few that were frustrated, mad or even disappointed in their own kids when they stopped living the naked lifestyle when they hit puberty. In my eyes that’s completely the wrong reaction towards your children and it shows that those parents have no clue what’s going on in their children’s life’s. We call people that combine nudity with something sexual narrow minded, but parents that don’t understand why their son or daughter doesn’t want to be naked all day are narrow minded aswell. Puberty means a lot of changes. And not only to their body in the visual point of view but also their place on this world, their look at the world, their interests, taste, everything. Them not being naked doesn’t mean they’re not naturist anymore. They are still the person that respects other people. They’re still the person that respects nature. They’re still the person that will help someone in trouble. Them being clothed doesn’t mean they forgotten all about the other beautiful values naturism taught us. Don’t focus on the naked part and support them instead of forcing them to go naked. Keep teaching them the importance of body acceptance and respecting other people. By putting the focus on nudity only you’ll only make things worse and probably chase them away from this beautiful life style. Communicate with your children. Learn what’s going on in their heads and life’s. It will help you understand them and give you a clear sight of what’s going on. Once you do that, you’ll see that they get back to the naked lifestyle aswell. Try to see our nudity as a given bonus to our lifestyle but don’t let it be the center of it. Nudity has to be something you look forward to after a long day at work or school. Don’t let it be an obligation. Don’t let them think they’re less loved when wearing clothes. The distance between you and your kids will grow by that and naturism will slowly die because there won’t be any new generations. 

Something to think about. ❤️

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My POV at life

Naturism & social media: It can work. 

It was last year when I made my first naturism based profile on Twitter. In the beginning it was meant to follow other naturist accounts and make some new friends, but quickly after opening my webshop 2Bare2Wear it became something else. I started tweeting my products, even made flyers of every product and did all I could to get the name known. I changed my profile name from my personal name to 2Bare2Wear, made the outlook more ” professional ” and started posting selfies of me with the products. Nude photos were very rare at that time on my profile, so I guess you could say there has happened a lot this last year. 


One of the biggest problems of ” online naturism “, is that you never completely know the intentions of the other people. Even when a profile looks completely trust worthy, they can still proof you otherwise months later. I usually follow my instinct and it’s 98% of the times correct. As mentioned in an earlier blog, I keep a very strict attention to the people that follow me on that Twitter account and it works pretty well. A lot of people I met on Twitter do the same and sometimes we share our blocked list with eachother or warn eachother when they are followed by an account, that’s not 100% about naturism in its purest form. Now why would I even take the risk of having my photos used by people with other intentions you might ask. Well that’s simply because it’s needed. A lot of people have the wrong idea about naturism. What’s even worse… They have the wrong idea about themselves. If my photos can help educate people about naturism or help them with accepting their own body, then I feel an obligation to do what I do. Life is so much greater when you’re in peace with yourself. 


One of my biggest role models in promoting naturism online must be Marc from the UK ( @MarkNudy on Twitter ). He has a very unique and positive way of showing what naturism is like. Has no shame, even is a bit nerdy sometimes, but he talks about it in such a positive way that you can’t do anything else then loving him within the first second you see a tweet of him. The fact that he’s from the UK makes it even more special since naturism isn’t something you talk about openly in real life over there. People can really give you ” the look “. He has won a lot of things with give aways from my profile and from #TeamNaturist challenges ( hosted by @IbanSaram. More info about #TeamNaturist in a future blog ), but really had a hard time feeling comfortable wearing these shirts in public in the beginning. I’m glad that turned out well eventually. 

Do we need social media to promote naturism? Yes I think we do. Media has been screwing up with how we should look at our selves and at other people. They made it a sport to always create an enemy. No matter what subject it is. Politics, cultures, races, you name it. They taught people that humanity lives in groups. Which I think is false. We are conceived the same way, born the same way and are biologically the same. We all have had the exact same start. And sure, we didn’t all have the same chances and opportunities in life but that doesn’t make us more or less then anyone else. They like you to believe we do. They created a ” perfect ” body image with the result that a lot of people aren’t happy with how they look. It doesn’t matter how you look. We were born pure. Without hate. Without shame. Without fear. But in some way, when we get older, we have a bad body image, we have hate to people that aren’t the same as us and we fear the unknown. Society is falling apart and we’re getting more and more selfish. Where you don’t see this development? At naturist resorts! And why? Because naturists know what really matters in life. Love, respect, a listening ear when someone needs to talk. From my experience these last 10 years in being an active naturist, I noticed that naturists are standing very positive in life. They don’t judge people for their choices or how they look. They don’t judge them by their job or how much money they have in the bank. What you see is what you get. I met a lot of amazing people on resorts and beaches, but I also met a lot of those amazing people online. The Internet has made the world a lot more smaller then it was 20 years ago. The funny thing about that is, that when you’re talking with a textile person online, you never exactly know that what you see is what you get. While talking with naturists online you do. 


I had the joy to meet some of those people in real life and I can tell you that they are exactly the same as online. So yeah, online naturism can work indeed. Also with social media. As long as you know what you’re doing. Facebook for instance doesn’t allow any kind of nudity. There are a lot of naturist groups in Facebook but a lot of them also get removed or put in to Facebook jail for posting nudity. And it’s not like Facebook has a bot that filters nudity in all Facebook posts. Photos get reported and from that moment Facebook looks in to it. The problem is that they get reported by people that joined the groups themselves. If you can’t handle nudity, then why enter a group that’s about naturism? Why I think they entered the group? Well that’s because 99% of the naturist groups on Facebook is closed or secret. So photos can’t even be reported by outsiders. It’s very frustrating for the group admins, because they want to offer a platform for naturists and people that are interested, but if people keep reporting photos in it, it’s getting very hard to run a group like that. Together with Jason from The Naturist Page and some other admins we run the Facebook group from TNP and it has a lot of members. Jason has been put in Facebook jail several times because someone reported photos in this group. That’s why all posts are going thru an admin check first before they get placed. And even then it’s a tricky issue. 


I think in the end it all comes down to a short list of do’s and dont’s when it comes to naturism and social media. First of all, get to know the terms and conditions of the social media you use. When it comes to nude photos, Twitter is still the best place to post them. And not only because nudity is allowed on Twitter, but also because Twitter has the biggest amount of naturist members. If you want to meet genuine naturists from around the world in a safe environment, then join the naturistcommunity.com. New members only get allowed if their profile picture includes their face which is checked by one of the admins. People that post sexual content, headless photos or genital close ups get a warning first and when they do it again they get removed. The post itself gets removed instantly. Don’t join sites like truenudist.com. It has nothing to do with naturism at all and is filled with people looking for sex. If you want to promote naturism like me and a lot of people do by using your own photos, make sure you don’t use photos without your face. It gives people the wrong idea. If you don’t want to be recognized then simply don’t use your own photos. But if you use other people’s photos, make sure they know about it and tell them what your intentions are. If you see photos of people you know, but they haven’t posted it themselves, make a screenshot and ask them if they know about it. 


And last of all, be proud of yourself. Know yourself and love yourself. People that love themselves have a certain calm and energy in their photos. When you’re insecure or not happy with yourself, people will see that in your photos and in some cases use that against you. They even tried it with my pictures even though I’m always looking proud and happy in my photos. It didn’t work because of that eventually but they did try. When you can’t use your photos to promote naturism because it could endanger your job or personal life, then don’t do it. Then promoting isn’t something for you. When you don’t want to promote naturism but just want to share your lifestyle with like minded, then think of the things I said above. Make sure who follows you on Twitter and make sure who they follow. Is their account closed? Don’t take the risk and block them. 

Please be aware of your own actions online. It can be a nice place to hang around, but can ruin your life by wrong judgement. Stay safe. 

Talk to you guys soon ❤️. 
 

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