My POV at life

How naturism changed my life.

After being bullied for a small 14 years during my youth and a slow process of finding and accepting myself, plus a wide interest in a lot of things, I came across naturism 10 years ago. A lot of things naturism is about, like respect people, animals & nature were one of the main reasons. I knew it was practiced mostly in the nude, but since I already accepted myself for who I was at that time, the being nude wasn’t really a problem for me.

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So I jumped right in and joined a very good friend, which is also naturist and a second mom to me, to naturist resort Flevonatuur in the Netherlands. From the first second I arrived there it felt like home coming and my missing puzzle piece was found.

My interest in naturism grew and developed a lot these last 10 years, but not only that changed a lot. I think the biggest change in my life was my point of view at life. We are living in an era where time is money and money and status is more important then people. People that need help are left behind, people that don’t need help are overwhelmed with stuff they don’t need but also don’t decline. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a people person, I love people and I’m interested in them. The real them. It’s just the way people act these days what annoys me. The negativity and hate that’s in them lately. Open a news website and read the comments at stories that have the subject immigration for instance. So much hate to people they don’t know, they don’t know their story, their history, their motivation nothing. They just spill their guts on social media without even thinking or reading what they’re saying. I blame modern media for the most part of this by spreading fear and false information. But that’s no excuse for turning of your brain and just typ the most negative things you can think of.

In the end it’s all about giving and receiving respect. I always ask myself the question, can you look in the mirror before you go to bed and say ( and believe ) that you’re a good person? The problem with this is, that the majority of the people don’t like themselves. They don’t like their job, they don’t like their family and friends and most of all they don’t love themselves. Instead of making a change they just keep going on and on like this for years and keep building up that negative vibe they’re in.

When you look at naturists, there’s a lot of respect between them. They don’t judge people by what they represent but by who they are. And even then it’s not really judging. Live and let live. They literally know everyone is the same because there’s nothing they can hide. Not even theirselves cuz when you’re at a naturist resort or a nude beach, yourself is all you have to offer. There’s no rich or poor, no success or fails. But there is a Paul or a Jenny, a Rick or a Samantha. There are just persons. Real persons. Living persons. With a suit named skin. And that skin, no matter what color it is, is the same for everyone and everywhere. A female nipple isn’t any different then a male nipple, tho male nipples are accepted in public while female nipples aren’t. I talked with a lot of people about that, male and female, and the majority of the people that are against public female nipples give as reason that ” it’s sexual “. Well no it isn’t. They’re put there for a reason, feeding your children. And yes I know it’s an erogenous zone aswell but so are ears. You wanna cover up ears aswell? The point I’m trying to make is that the world isn’t as black and white as you might think.

I’m posting this and as you probably already noticed you can see my butt ( funny fact: did you know my butt is made out of the same cells and materials as the rest of my body? It’s really true, look it up ). Facebook is a very strange medium. ( Sidenote: When I wrote this it was a Facebook post first ) You can post violence, wars, blood, animal cruelty, filthy words, etc. but what you can’t post is skin that usually is covered up. Pictures of breastfeeding were removed and called ” sexual content “. This is the world we live in today. It’s okay to show which awful things are taking our lives, but it’s not okay what kept us alive the first most important period of our life.

I’m not asking you to agree with me, I’m only asking you to love yourself for who you are. I’m not saying I never made a mistake or that I know what’s best for you. I’m human, surely I do make mistakes and I don’t have the wisdom to say how you should live your life. What I do know, is how you could make it easier for yourself on this big planet and more enjoyable. We’re at a moment where the world needs more love and what a great way to achieve that in the first place by loving yourself. Also I’m asking you to think before you speak, especially on social media. I know the anonymity makes it easier to say things you would say offline but that doesn’t justify it.

Don’t judge people before you talked with them. Or even better, don’t judge them at all. Embrace your body, it’s the only one you got. Don’t like your job? Switch jobs. Don’t like your friends? Make new ones. I know it sounds very easy. It’s not. But when you do it, it’ll make your life so much easier. We’re born without judgement. Without hate. Without shame. These are all things that are taught to us. Only question you have to ask yourself is do I really wanna spent my time on earth trying to live other people’s lives or do I wanna live my own life before it’s over. So step outside that box and make a change. For yourself, for your surrounding and for the sake of this world. It’s the world we leave behind for our kids. Don’t let them pay for our stupid mistakes and narrow thinking. There’s more inside you then you think. Embrace it, don’t care what other people will think or say because in the end you’ll see that it doesn’t matter what others think about you. It’s about what you think about yourself.

Love yourself like I love myself. I know you can do it.

Thank you ❤️

Standaard
Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 11: Unexpected ” hero “?

What a week people, what a week. Santana is joining me in the truck for 2,5 weeks and it started off pretty crazy. It all started last Thursday evening with a beautiful trip to France. We left around 7.30 pm, after picking up a pre-loaded trailer and arrived at our first 4 customers in Paris ( they’re all in the same building ). After unloading them we went to the next one 10 km further. After that it was 780 kilometer to our next stop: Marseille. Because we drove all night we had to sleep during the day. Which wasn’t easy with a cabin temperature of 29+ degrees Celsius and an air conditioning that couldn’t work longer dan 2,5 hours. After that the battery voltage was to low and we had to keep the truck running for a while. 


When our break was over, we left around midnight for the left over 3,5 hour trip to Marseille where we arrived around 3.30 am Saturday morning. Customer started at 4 am so we could get some extra sleep which we gratefully took. After unloading that customer we were empty and drove towards Albenga in Italy where we could load plants for Holland in the evening. 


It was a beautiful trip along the French and Italian coastline and because sun was already coming up a bit, we had a lovely view to look at. When I was getting tired halfway, we stopped for an hour of sleep and after that we did the last part, arriving around 9 am Saturday morning. Time to close the curtains again and wait till we were getting a phone call that we could start loading. 


Unfortunately that was later then expected. Instead of the expected 7 or 8 pm it wasn’t until 10.45 pm that we could start loading. Luckily this all went very fast and within the hour we were heading towards Holland.  Now this isn’t just as easy as with a normal car. You have to realize that trucks aren’t allowed to drive on Sunday in countries like Switzerland and Germany ( unless you have fresh food with you, those kind of loads have clearance ). 


So we were forced to take another route thru the Frejus tunnel ( more then 12 km long ) and then thru France, Luxembourg and Belgium. When we arrived at the Frejus tunnel around 3.15 am it was closed till 4 am due maintenance. Great chance to make a 45 minute break. When that was done we kept on driving till there were no more driving hours left and stranded somewhere near Dijon. 


I decided to take an 11 hour break so we started driving again Sunday evening at 9.30 pm, arriving at our customer in holland Monday morning at 6 am. We slept another 3 hours and then started unloading the two customers which were in the same street. Then we went back to bed till 2.30 pm and started working again at 3 pm. We loaded some chicken and then drove towards our company. When we were almost there, it was around 6.45 pm, something strange happened. It’s a pretty big highway ( 4 lanes ). We were driving on the most right lane. And all of a sudden a grey van, that was driving on the most left lane, went full speed to the right, crossing 4 lanes ( without hitting anyone else ), then drove over the emergency lane, thru some bushes and ended up in the water next to the highway creating a wave that was 3 or 4 meters high. I didn’t hesitate and immediately parked the truck on the emergency lane. We were the first ones on the scene ( later we realized that we were the only ones that stopped ) and while I ran towards the van, Santana called the emergency services. 

 

When I arrived at the van it was laying in the creek as you can see in the picture above. Smoke was coming from under the hood and there was no sign of life at first sight. I opened the passenger door and saw one person in the van. He was snoring while his head was tilted back. I started yelling at him, trying to wake him up. Hit mouth and face was covered in blood. After yelling for like 5 minutes he started choking in his own blood, which woke him up. I started talking to him again and he slowly started noticing me. In the meantime I turned the engine off and tried make contact with him. Holding the door open with my right foot I reached in and unbuckled his seatbelt. I tried to win his trust ( he was very disorientated ) and reached out me hand to him. Luckily he grabbed it at one moment and while holding my hand he climbed out of the van. 


He still was very disorientated and started walking in different directions. Sometimes I called him back, other times I really had to stop him and keep talking to him. Otherwise would’ve walked straight on to the highway where people were still driving full speed ( we were still the only ones at the scene, Santana was waiting in the truck ). When I saw blue flashing lights in the distance I started walking towards the emergency lane to get their attention. And while the fire truck drove past us, a police car noticed us at the last second and stopped. 


They checked if there were other people in the van ( which wasn’t the case ) and started talking with me and driver. He was still very confused and even said that he wasn’t the driver but I was. Also other questions from the police were answered very confused so the ambulance took him to the hospital for further inspection. After the police took my statement of what happened and wrote down my personal information we were allowed to continue our trip. 

All and all a very strange, scary and adrenaline pushing situation. Hope the rest of our 2,5 week together goes a bit more relaxed then this. Happy that the driver is still alive though. Could have ended up way worse. 

Talk to you guys soon ❤

Oh and for your info, the driver had no alcohol in his blood. So he probably fell asleep or something like that. 

Standaard
Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 10: First real spring weekend

Our time together started on Thursday evening this week. Santana was joining me for a day trip on Friday so she came to the company Thursday evening. 


When we woke up Friday morning, we started loading at a company nearby. It was pretty quiet for a Friday so after we unloaded that freight, we did another one but after that one there was nothing more to do, so they told us to go home and enjoy our weekend. We packed our things, parked the truck and went towards… Flevonatuur! As you all know, our favorite naturist resort. And it was such nice weather, that we just couldn’t resist. It was our first of many visits this year and it was a great one. Nice warm sun, almost no wind, sauna had the right temperature, lovely people around us. We can’t wait to go back. 


Saturday:

On Saturday my daughter arrived around 10 am to spend another weekend with us. And because it was the same weather as Friday, we decided to have a nice walk in the forest near our home. 


After a 40 minute walk we had something to drink and saw that we had some extra time left before a good buddy of mine would come to visit. And since we had never visited the petting zoo in our hometown we got in the car and went to check it out. It was a pretty big petting zoo and it had all the animals that you think of by hearing the word petting zoo. 


Rabbits, cows, pigs, goats, donkeys, you name it. They were all there. My daughter loved it and we loved the fact that she loved it. All and all a lovely weekend. On Sunday we didn’t do much except some work in the garden, a little bit small changes in the new baby bedroom, a lot of GTA and a lot of playing and spending time with my daughter. Also some small preparations for the third comic were made. You’ll see that one in a few weeks from now. 


Talk to you guys soon ❤

Standaard
Public announcement

Online comic coming soon!

Hey guys. Got some interesting news. Next to our blogs, Santana and I are also working on an online comic. It’ll be short independent stories brought with humor. They will be posted here, on Twitter, on naturistcommunity.com and maybe on Facebook. I hope you guys will enjoy and am looking forward for your feedback. 


Also, in a recent poll on Twitter, it became very clear that the majority wants to see more home naturist diaries this year, so we will be working on that aswell. 

Thank you all for the interest, support, feedback and personal reactions. We really appreciate it. 
Talk to you soon ❤. 

Standaard
Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 9: Nude gaming & cleaning up the backyard

This weekend started with work. I had one last ride to do before I could go home. I started loading my truck at 00.15 am Saturday morning with vegetables and went for a 2,5 hour drive towards the customer. After unloading and waiting for the documents, I drove the truck home instead of to our company. I arrived in our hometown around 6 am and after Santana picked me up we went back to bed for a few hours. We had an appointment around 1 pm to buy a buggy for my daughter so we took the few hours we had. 


After picking up the buggy, we had a quick coffee at my parents and then went to a baby store to buy some new clothes for the baby. Then we went back home so I could start making dinner. 


When dinner was done we did the dishes together. Had some coffee and then Santana started on the laundry. In the meantime I was starting up my PS4 for some GTA Online with a buddy of mine. A long Saturday came to an end. 


The next day we stayed in bed till 10 am and decided to have a big breakfast with soup and fresh oven baked bread. The planning was to go shopping in the Dutch town Almere all day so a good breakfast was very welcome for both of us. 


After that breakfast we got in our car and went to Almere. Again we bought some new clothes for the baby and 3 new jeans for me. We had a lovely shopping Sunday and it already was after 5 pm when we returned to our car to go back home. 


After returning home I made some ” Chicken Tonight “, we had some coffee afterwards, watched some tv and then went to bed. 


The next day, Monday also was a busy day. We had an appointment at 9.30 am at our place with someone who’s going to help us the first weeks when the baby is born. This is very common and normal in the Netherlands. They do stuff in your house, keep an eye on the baby and the mother and make sure all family members can spend their time together in the most efficient way possible. When that was done I went to pick up a trailer because it really was time to clean up our backyard. Because with all the work we’ve done lately in our house we collected a lot of trash. And while I was doing that, Santana was working on the bedroom door of my daughter to make it more girly. It turned out pretty cool in our opinion. 


After that I decided that it was done for that day. Santana was tired, I was tired aswell. Time to relax and cuddle because the next day I would have to start working again and won’t be back home before Friday evening. Santana made dinner this day and after that we started up the PS4 again to do some stuntraces together in GTA Online. Slowly turning her into a gamer haha. I hope you enjoyed, we did. 


Talk to you guys soon ❤

Standaard
My POV at life

Naturists… stand up and unite!

I never intended to write a complete blog about this subject, simply because I wanted to keep this page politics free. However, the things that are happening lately worldwide ( and especially in America ), are beyond politics. And a reason for me to speak out my mind about it. Because I’m getting more and more worried about our future, the future of our children and about humanity today. Also because the things that are happening these last couple of weeks are all things that naturism isn’t about. In today’s blog I’ll try to show these differences to you by using some of the things naturism was based on. Please understand that this blog isn’t an attack to political right, I’m also talking about the things that political left is doing wrong ( in my eyes ). So try to read this as my opinion and my point of view of the world today. 


Respect. 

One of the biggest things naturism is about. Respect for our fellow human beings, our planet, our thoughts and what we look like. Not judging people but respect them for who they are. You don’t always have to agree with them, but that’s what discussions are for. As long as you keep them respectful. And respect is hard to find outside our happy naked naturist bubble. Simply go to any news page on Facebook and read the comments. They’re not thought out, they’re not respectful, it’s nothing more then yelling at the things they don’t understand or accept in the most offensive way they can think of. It was one of the main reasons I deleted my Facebook account in 2015. I simply couldn’t stand the hate. But also our leaders don’t show respect to people. They don’t do it to other countries and cultures, they also don’t show it to other politicians and to the people living in the country they lead. And I’m talking about the majority of the world leaders. So not only from the ” free west “, but also the leaders from other parts of the world. All based on not willing to understand another, religion, fear and the thought that their POV is the right one. 


Harmony. 

The last 10,20, 30 years they are talking about a successful multicultural society. And I agree that’s its multicultural. But I’m not convinced it’s successful. The numbers of racist crimes are still high. People are still getting discriminated. And there are still people yelling ” our people first “. I don’t call that successful. And I also don’t call it living in harmony. And it’s strange, because when you look at a random naturist resort, you don’t see anything of those things. That’s one of the best things I like about naturism. That everybody can live with the people around them. Why is it so hard to create that kind of atmosphere outside the resorts? Is it media, is it group pressure, is it how the people are raised by their parents, is it religion? I don’t know. I never had issues with other cultures or sexualities. We have several nationalities in my family. Maybe that helped me looking at people like human beings instead of looking at them by nationality. My parents were always very open about people who are gay. Maybe that’s why I have a lot of friends that are gay. Who knows. But the fact is that harmony is hard to find these days. And it’s getting more extreme by the day. West European truck drivers can’t work in harmony with East European truck drivers, people from turkey are divided in 2 groups now, not to mention what’s going on in Israel for century’s now.  And after last presidential election in the United States, there is big movement in left and right going on aswell over there. 


Equality. 

And then there was the new Muslim ban created by President Trump. The decision that divided humanity in two kinds. The people that are Muslim and the people that aren’t Muslim. Like 75 years ago the Germans did with the Jews. And I have to admit that during the election race I defended Donald Trump several times when people made the connection between him and Hitler. Simply because I thought there would never be someone like Hitler again, plus I always thought that it would be possible to do something like that in 2017. How wrong was I. The comparisons are getting more clear by every decision he made since January 1st. And it worries me. I’m pro equality and I know it wasn’t happening on small regional scale, like here in holland where at some clubs people with a heritage in morocco are kept outside the club with some lame excuses or where people don’t get a job, while they have all the qualifications, simply because they have an Arabic name. And I’m aware that I’m losing readers simply by making the connection between Trump and Adolf and I respect that. I respect the fact that they don’t respect my point of view. Although I’m pretty convinced that most of my readers, naturists, aren’t a fan of him either, also because of the differences between him and what naturism stands for. 


No borders. 

And then there was the plan for the wall. During the election race I thought it was bluffing and propaganda. But now it’s almost a fact. Although I’m not sure if Mexico will really pay for it. And eventhough all eyes are pointed at the States now, we mustn’t forget that the same things are happening in Europe aswell. When the refugees came with thousands towards Europe, countries like Hungary also build walls and fences to keep them out. Or atleast to try control the situation. And all around Europe there are noises to close the borders. Here in the Netherlands aswell. The ironic part is that they forget that 70 years ago, we were refugees aswell. I don’t have the correct numbers, but I know that a lot of Dutch families during WWII moved to Canada and the United Kingdom. Australia aswell. And I’m sure it happened in other countries aswell. So I don’t understand why they are so against refugees these days. If there’s anyone who knows how special freedom is, then it’s us. And that shouldn’t be taken for granted. 


Freedom. 

Because freedom, or at least the feeling of freedom, is the best feeling in the world. And our biggest right as human being. The freedom to be who we are, to think what we think. So if freedom is important to you, then realize that it’s important for other people aswell. And that’s all that the majority of the refugees want. Freedom and a safe place for their thoughts, plans and family. And yes, I know Isis has it’s people also in that big flow of refugees. But closing the borders isn’t an option. A wall isn’t an option. Especially in a war like this, where you’re not fighting against an army but against a vision. A vision that’s planted in their heads. And that’s something that can be planted in anyone’s head. Anders Breivik for example. He did his crimes also because an idea he had in his head. Same goes for the Muslim terrorists. It’s an idea in their head, talked into by their leaders, under the name of a religion that has very little to do with their actions. But as long as they believe it and see it as real, extreme terrorist attacks like Boston, Paris, Brussel, Istanbul will happen again and again. But closing borders isn’t the correct option. It’s an option based on fear. 


Think. 

So think. Think about what you want for yourself, for your children if you have any. And what you want for the people you love and the people you share this planet with. Because in the end we all have to do it together. And I rather do that with mutual love then with hate. 


Our future. 

The thing I want most in the world is that my children grow up in a safe loving environment. With clean air in their lungs. With good education. With knowledge of all cultures worldwide. With mutual respect. And eventhough the world is a big mess at the moment, I’m still sure it’s possible to reach that. As long as we realize that we are not alone on this planet. And that we don’t have the same visions sometimes. Or the same religions. Just look at those things the same way naturists look at body’s. All different but still the same. Because all we want is to be free and to be safe. I do, you do, the refugees do. So give them a chance. Like we had one in the past. You can’t look forward without looking back. That goes for bad things, but for good things aswell. 


So stand up!

For a better world. For freedom. For respect. And voor equal rights. This is the time to spread the word of naturism. And what we stand for. Because the world has a lot to learn when it comes to respect. They know that they want to receive it. Let’s learn them how to give it. In a peaceful, respectful way. So not in a window-destroying-aggressive-putting cars on fire-kinda way of protest. I understand why some of the democrats are behaving like that in the States now, I do however don’t approve it. This is not the way. And also based on fear. The fear of the unknown. 


Unite!

Because I can’t do it alone. And I can’t do it with only the help of Santana. I need all naturists to openly tell people what naturism stands for. So if you’re still in the naturist closet, come out of it. If you’re an open naturist, keep telling people around you what it’s like and what it’s about. Because the more people know about it, the more they’ll see that it’s way more fun and way more relaxed to spend your life. 

Talk to you guys soon ❤. 

Standaard