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My POV at life

How naturism changed my life.

After being bullied for a small 14 years during my youth and a slow process of finding and accepting myself, plus a wide interest in a lot of things, I came across naturism 10 years ago. A lot of things naturism is about, like respect people, animals & nature were one of the main reasons. I knew it was practiced mostly in the nude, but since I already accepted myself for who I was at that time, the being nude wasn’t really a problem for me.

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So I jumped right in and joined a very good friend, which is also naturist and a second mom to me, to naturist resort Flevonatuur in the Netherlands. From the first second I arrived there it felt like home coming and my missing puzzle piece was found.

My interest in naturism grew and developed a lot these last 10 years, but not only that changed a lot. I think the biggest change in my life was my point of view at life. We are living in an era where time is money and money and status is more important then people. People that need help are left behind, people that don’t need help are overwhelmed with stuff they don’t need but also don’t decline. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a people person, I love people and I’m interested in them. The real them. It’s just the way people act these days what annoys me. The negativity and hate that’s in them lately. Open a news website and read the comments at stories that have the subject immigration for instance. So much hate to people they don’t know, they don’t know their story, their history, their motivation nothing. They just spill their guts on social media without even thinking or reading what they’re saying. I blame modern media for the most part of this by spreading fear and false information. But that’s no excuse for turning of your brain and just typ the most negative things you can think of.

In the end it’s all about giving and receiving respect. I always ask myself the question, can you look in the mirror before you go to bed and say ( and believe ) that you’re a good person? The problem with this is, that the majority of the people don’t like themselves. They don’t like their job, they don’t like their family and friends and most of all they don’t love themselves. Instead of making a change they just keep going on and on like this for years and keep building up that negative vibe they’re in.

When you look at naturists, there’s a lot of respect between them. They don’t judge people by what they represent but by who they are. And even then it’s not really judging. Live and let live. They literally know everyone is the same because there’s nothing they can hide. Not even theirselves cuz when you’re at a naturist resort or a nude beach, yourself is all you have to offer. There’s no rich or poor, no success or fails. But there is a Paul or a Jenny, a Rick or a Samantha. There are just persons. Real persons. Living persons. With a suit named skin. And that skin, no matter what color it is, is the same for everyone and everywhere. A female nipple isn’t any different then a male nipple, tho male nipples are accepted in public while female nipples aren’t. I talked with a lot of people about that, male and female, and the majority of the people that are against public female nipples give as reason that ” it’s sexual “. Well no it isn’t. They’re put there for a reason, feeding your children. And yes I know it’s an erogenous zone aswell but so are ears. You wanna cover up ears aswell? The point I’m trying to make is that the world isn’t as black and white as you might think.

I’m posting this and as you probably already noticed you can see my butt ( funny fact: did you know my butt is made out of the same cells and materials as the rest of my body? It’s really true, look it up ). Facebook is a very strange medium. ( Sidenote: When I wrote this it was a Facebook post first ) You can post violence, wars, blood, animal cruelty, filthy words, etc. but what you can’t post is skin that usually is covered up. Pictures of breastfeeding were removed and called ” sexual content “. This is the world we live in today. It’s okay to show which awful things are taking our lives, but it’s not okay what kept us alive the first most important period of our life.

I’m not asking you to agree with me, I’m only asking you to love yourself for who you are. I’m not saying I never made a mistake or that I know what’s best for you. I’m human, surely I do make mistakes and I don’t have the wisdom to say how you should live your life. What I do know, is how you could make it easier for yourself on this big planet and more enjoyable. We’re at a moment where the world needs more love and what a great way to achieve that in the first place by loving yourself. Also I’m asking you to think before you speak, especially on social media. I know the anonymity makes it easier to say things you would say offline but that doesn’t justify it.

Don’t judge people before you talked with them. Or even better, don’t judge them at all. Embrace your body, it’s the only one you got. Don’t like your job? Switch jobs. Don’t like your friends? Make new ones. I know it sounds very easy. It’s not. But when you do it, it’ll make your life so much easier. We’re born without judgement. Without hate. Without shame. These are all things that are taught to us. Only question you have to ask yourself is do I really wanna spent my time on earth trying to live other people’s lives or do I wanna live my own life before it’s over. So step outside that box and make a change. For yourself, for your surrounding and for the sake of this world. It’s the world we leave behind for our kids. Don’t let them pay for our stupid mistakes and narrow thinking. There’s more inside you then you think. Embrace it, don’t care what other people will think or say because in the end you’ll see that it doesn’t matter what others think about you. It’s about what you think about yourself.

Love yourself like I love myself. I know you can do it.

Thank you ❤️

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Public announcement

Online comic coming soon!

Hey guys. Got some interesting news. Next to our blogs, Santana and I are also working on an online comic. It’ll be short independent stories brought with humor. They will be posted here, on Twitter, on naturistcommunity.com and maybe on Facebook. I hope you guys will enjoy and am looking forward for your feedback. 


Also, in a recent poll on Twitter, it became very clear that the majority wants to see more home naturist diaries this year, so we will be working on that aswell. 

Thank you all for the interest, support, feedback and personal reactions. We really appreciate it. 
Talk to you soon ❤. 

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Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 9: Nude gaming & cleaning up the backyard

This weekend started with work. I had one last ride to do before I could go home. I started loading my truck at 00.15 am Saturday morning with vegetables and went for a 2,5 hour drive towards the customer. After unloading and waiting for the documents, I drove the truck home instead of to our company. I arrived in our hometown around 6 am and after Santana picked me up we went back to bed for a few hours. We had an appointment around 1 pm to buy a buggy for my daughter so we took the few hours we had. 


After picking up the buggy, we had a quick coffee at my parents and then went to a baby store to buy some new clothes for the baby. Then we went back home so I could start making dinner. 


When dinner was done we did the dishes together. Had some coffee and then Santana started on the laundry. In the meantime I was starting up my PS4 for some GTA Online with a buddy of mine. A long Saturday came to an end. 


The next day we stayed in bed till 10 am and decided to have a big breakfast with soup and fresh oven baked bread. The planning was to go shopping in the Dutch town Almere all day so a good breakfast was very welcome for both of us. 


After that breakfast we got in our car and went to Almere. Again we bought some new clothes for the baby and 3 new jeans for me. We had a lovely shopping Sunday and it already was after 5 pm when we returned to our car to go back home. 


After returning home I made some ” Chicken Tonight “, we had some coffee afterwards, watched some tv and then went to bed. 


The next day, Monday also was a busy day. We had an appointment at 9.30 am at our place with someone who’s going to help us the first weeks when the baby is born. This is very common and normal in the Netherlands. They do stuff in your house, keep an eye on the baby and the mother and make sure all family members can spend their time together in the most efficient way possible. When that was done I went to pick up a trailer because it really was time to clean up our backyard. Because with all the work we’ve done lately in our house we collected a lot of trash. And while I was doing that, Santana was working on the bedroom door of my daughter to make it more girly. It turned out pretty cool in our opinion. 


After that I decided that it was done for that day. Santana was tired, I was tired aswell. Time to relax and cuddle because the next day I would have to start working again and won’t be back home before Friday evening. Santana made dinner this day and after that we started up the PS4 again to do some stuntraces together in GTA Online. Slowly turning her into a gamer haha. I hope you enjoyed, we did. 


Talk to you guys soon ❤

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My POV at life

Naturists… stand up and unite!

I never intended to write a complete blog about this subject, simply because I wanted to keep this page politics free. However, the things that are happening lately worldwide ( and especially in America ), are beyond politics. And a reason for me to speak out my mind about it. Because I’m getting more and more worried about our future, the future of our children and about humanity today. Also because the things that are happening these last couple of weeks are all things that naturism isn’t about. In today’s blog I’ll try to show these differences to you by using some of the things naturism was based on. Please understand that this blog isn’t an attack to political right, I’m also talking about the things that political left is doing wrong ( in my eyes ). So try to read this as my opinion and my point of view of the world today. 


Respect. 

One of the biggest things naturism is about. Respect for our fellow human beings, our planet, our thoughts and what we look like. Not judging people but respect them for who they are. You don’t always have to agree with them, but that’s what discussions are for. As long as you keep them respectful. And respect is hard to find outside our happy naked naturist bubble. Simply go to any news page on Facebook and read the comments. They’re not thought out, they’re not respectful, it’s nothing more then yelling at the things they don’t understand or accept in the most offensive way they can think of. It was one of the main reasons I deleted my Facebook account in 2015. I simply couldn’t stand the hate. But also our leaders don’t show respect to people. They don’t do it to other countries and cultures, they also don’t show it to other politicians and to the people living in the country they lead. And I’m talking about the majority of the world leaders. So not only from the ” free west “, but also the leaders from other parts of the world. All based on not willing to understand another, religion, fear and the thought that their POV is the right one. 


Harmony. 

The last 10,20, 30 years they are talking about a successful multicultural society. And I agree that’s its multicultural. But I’m not convinced it’s successful. The numbers of racist crimes are still high. People are still getting discriminated. And there are still people yelling ” our people first “. I don’t call that successful. And I also don’t call it living in harmony. And it’s strange, because when you look at a random naturist resort, you don’t see anything of those things. That’s one of the best things I like about naturism. That everybody can live with the people around them. Why is it so hard to create that kind of atmosphere outside the resorts? Is it media, is it group pressure, is it how the people are raised by their parents, is it religion? I don’t know. I never had issues with other cultures or sexualities. We have several nationalities in my family. Maybe that helped me looking at people like human beings instead of looking at them by nationality. My parents were always very open about people who are gay. Maybe that’s why I have a lot of friends that are gay. Who knows. But the fact is that harmony is hard to find these days. And it’s getting more extreme by the day. West European truck drivers can’t work in harmony with East European truck drivers, people from turkey are divided in 2 groups now, not to mention what’s going on in Israel for century’s now.  And after last presidential election in the United States, there is big movement in left and right going on aswell over there. 


Equality. 

And then there was the new Muslim ban created by President Trump. The decision that divided humanity in two kinds. The people that are Muslim and the people that aren’t Muslim. Like 75 years ago the Germans did with the Jews. And I have to admit that during the election race I defended Donald Trump several times when people made the connection between him and Hitler. Simply because I thought there would never be someone like Hitler again, plus I always thought that it would be possible to do something like that in 2017. How wrong was I. The comparisons are getting more clear by every decision he made since January 1st. And it worries me. I’m pro equality and I know it wasn’t happening on small regional scale, like here in holland where at some clubs people with a heritage in morocco are kept outside the club with some lame excuses or where people don’t get a job, while they have all the qualifications, simply because they have an Arabic name. And I’m aware that I’m losing readers simply by making the connection between Trump and Adolf and I respect that. I respect the fact that they don’t respect my point of view. Although I’m pretty convinced that most of my readers, naturists, aren’t a fan of him either, also because of the differences between him and what naturism stands for. 


No borders. 

And then there was the plan for the wall. During the election race I thought it was bluffing and propaganda. But now it’s almost a fact. Although I’m not sure if Mexico will really pay for it. And eventhough all eyes are pointed at the States now, we mustn’t forget that the same things are happening in Europe aswell. When the refugees came with thousands towards Europe, countries like Hungary also build walls and fences to keep them out. Or atleast to try control the situation. And all around Europe there are noises to close the borders. Here in the Netherlands aswell. The ironic part is that they forget that 70 years ago, we were refugees aswell. I don’t have the correct numbers, but I know that a lot of Dutch families during WWII moved to Canada and the United Kingdom. Australia aswell. And I’m sure it happened in other countries aswell. So I don’t understand why they are so against refugees these days. If there’s anyone who knows how special freedom is, then it’s us. And that shouldn’t be taken for granted. 


Freedom. 

Because freedom, or at least the feeling of freedom, is the best feeling in the world. And our biggest right as human being. The freedom to be who we are, to think what we think. So if freedom is important to you, then realize that it’s important for other people aswell. And that’s all that the majority of the refugees want. Freedom and a safe place for their thoughts, plans and family. And yes, I know Isis has it’s people also in that big flow of refugees. But closing the borders isn’t an option. A wall isn’t an option. Especially in a war like this, where you’re not fighting against an army but against a vision. A vision that’s planted in their heads. And that’s something that can be planted in anyone’s head. Anders Breivik for example. He did his crimes also because an idea he had in his head. Same goes for the Muslim terrorists. It’s an idea in their head, talked into by their leaders, under the name of a religion that has very little to do with their actions. But as long as they believe it and see it as real, extreme terrorist attacks like Boston, Paris, Brussel, Istanbul will happen again and again. But closing borders isn’t the correct option. It’s an option based on fear. 


Think. 

So think. Think about what you want for yourself, for your children if you have any. And what you want for the people you love and the people you share this planet with. Because in the end we all have to do it together. And I rather do that with mutual love then with hate. 


Our future. 

The thing I want most in the world is that my children grow up in a safe loving environment. With clean air in their lungs. With good education. With knowledge of all cultures worldwide. With mutual respect. And eventhough the world is a big mess at the moment, I’m still sure it’s possible to reach that. As long as we realize that we are not alone on this planet. And that we don’t have the same visions sometimes. Or the same religions. Just look at those things the same way naturists look at body’s. All different but still the same. Because all we want is to be free and to be safe. I do, you do, the refugees do. So give them a chance. Like we had one in the past. You can’t look forward without looking back. That goes for bad things, but for good things aswell. 


So stand up!

For a better world. For freedom. For respect. And voor equal rights. This is the time to spread the word of naturism. And what we stand for. Because the world has a lot to learn when it comes to respect. They know that they want to receive it. Let’s learn them how to give it. In a peaceful, respectful way. So not in a window-destroying-aggressive-putting cars on fire-kinda way of protest. I understand why some of the democrats are behaving like that in the States now, I do however don’t approve it. This is not the way. And also based on fear. The fear of the unknown. 


Unite!

Because I can’t do it alone. And I can’t do it with only the help of Santana. I need all naturists to openly tell people what naturism stands for. So if you’re still in the naturist closet, come out of it. If you’re an open naturist, keep telling people around you what it’s like and what it’s about. Because the more people know about it, the more they’ll see that it’s way more fun and way more relaxed to spend your life. 

Talk to you guys soon ❤. 

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My POV at life

My bare thoughts about naturistcommunity.com

I mentioned naturistcommunity.com in several blogs, but never really gave you more info about it. I will try to do that by sharing my personal experiences. After 40+ blogs you probably know what kind of guy I am as human being and as naturist. I hope sharing my personal experiences will help you with the decision of becoming a ( paid or free ) member. 


Naturistcommunity.com offers a lot of things for their members: a safe environment for their members, a chat room, several blogs, a forum, a place to share events, a timeline that looks a bit like Facebook, sharing photos, etc. It’s a safe environment for several reasons. One of them is that you can only become a member if your profile picture includes your face. I think they check with reversed image search if it’s legit. When they think it’s legit, you get an email where you can complete entering the website and make your profile complete. There are two options, a free membership and a paid membership. A paid membership obviously gives you more options then a free one. I have a free membership myself, simply because I want to be absolutely sure that I’m a staying member. And for me that takes some time. 


And eventhough I think this page has some great potential, there are some minor things that ” irritate ” me. For instance, as a free member, you can post your photos. Which is awesome. However…. if I go to the photos tab to take a look at my photos… I can’t. So if I want to check out my own photos I have to pay or keep scrolling down my timeline until I find them again. Because I can see them in my timeline. Just not in my albums. Also there are a lot of differences between the mobile site and the desktop site. Last one has way more options like editing your profile for instance. But when I open the desktop site on my phone it doesn’t completely load in, with the result that I’m missing a lot of text on the right side of the page. 


But for the rest, how the site looks and what it has to offer so far, I’m very satisfied. Admins are very active and easy to contact. Members are friendly and warm people and even though a small group is very active and the majority isn’t, I really think this has potential and has a bright future ahead. So if you are looking for a genuine naturist social media platform, this might be something for you.


The chat room needs some work though, because it hasn’t worked on my iPhone since I’m a member. Maybe they could use the same system as nudistclubhouse.com. 

Talk to you guys soon ❤. 

And yes, I know it’s Monday, so here a small weekend update:


Our bedroom is finally finished,


My daughter had her first sleep in her new bed


And Santana is 25 weeks pregnant now. 


Talk to you guys soon ❤. 

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Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 8: Happy nude year!!!

First of all, happy new year everyone. We all arrived safely in 2017, so let’s make it a good one! I could tell you how our weekend, including New Year’s Eve, was and how we celebrated Christmas but all I can tell is that it was a wonderful time with ( clothed ) family obligations. So I’m not going to do that. What I am going to do though, is looking back at 2016 in a not chronological order. Simply because I had one of my best years last year. Love was great, work was great, naturism was great. Let’s go!


Let’s start off with a closed book. On December 31st I closed all 2Bare2Wear shops as I announced earlier last year. As mentioned earlier, new policies, raised product prizes and an unexpected success with this WordPress page, made me decide to close down the shops. Motivation and time were lacking the last months and it felt like a good thing to do. Björ from #TeamNaturist and I are still looking for a way to bring back the #TeamNaturist gear. In first place to keep producing them as prizes for the #TeamNaturistChallenges and maybe later for sales aswell. When it comes to The Naturist Page merchandise, Jason and I still haven’t looked in to the available options, so if there is any news about that in the near future, I’ll let you know. 


2016 was also the year I made a career move and switched company. The company where I work now gives me the option to be home more often and even make more money then the company I worked for before this one. Also last week I was offered a great opportunity, you could call it a small promotion, which I took with both hands. They asked me if I wanted to be a mentor driver for new colleagues, so I can teach them how our company works. I appreciate the faith and positive motivations this company gives me and will do anything to do my new task the best way I can. 


It also was the year where my daughter learned to walk. A development that came way quicker then I imagined. Time can go so quickly sometimes. 2016 in general went fast for me. But the giant leaps this young ones make are incredible. She makes me more proud every day and I can’t wait to see what she will learn in 2017. 


The greatest achievement in 2016 was meeting the love of my life. This woman made me feel en see things I never could imagine. And eventhough she never saw her self living the life of a naturist, she’s now on my side, in the nude, promoting naturism almost every day. 2016 was the year we found out we were pregnant, 2017 will be the year we will be the parents of a new baby. 


Talking about naturism, it was a fantastic year for both of us when it comes to naturism. For Santana it was the year to experience naturism in the best way possible. For me it was a year of exploring new beaches, resorts and pools. It also was the year for both of us where we decided to become home naturists aswell and grab every moment to drop our clothes. Life couldn’t be greater. It also was the year where I met 2 British naturist friends who became very special to me. One of them is Marc. I talked about him in many blogs and you’ll probably already know what he means to me. The other one is Stuart. A really stand out guy from Bristol. I’m very proud to call him a friend of mine. And eventhough we haven’t talked a lot lately, I know we’re good. 


It was the year where we got to know some amazing nude beaches like Twiske in oostzaan. It also was the year where we had some negative experiences on the beach of Hoek van Holland. A beach we will never visit again after those experiences. At least as long as the people over there don’t know the differences between public sex and social nudity. Again people, show some respect for the other beach visitors and keep those actions at home, not where young families come to have a nice day at the beach. 


And of course it was the year of experiencing naturism with the people we love. Roos, Andre, Benjamin, Pascal and Dorthy, thanks for spending these naturist days with us. Let’s make it a wonderful summer together in 2017 and enjoy our naked sun time together as much as we can. 


I hope 2017 will also be the year where we can visit Wervershoof a second time, where we had a very warm welcome by the most amazing people you can imagine. Anyhow, whatever 2017 will bring for us, I know we will manage it together and that you guys, my readers, will be witness of a lot special moments, here on this naturist blog page. I’ll end this ” looking back blog ” with a small photo compilation of 2016. Thanks for following our year and our life.We’ll talk soon in 2017 ❤. 

 

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Santana's POV at life

Looking back by Santana

I think it’s safe to say that this was my year. In 2016 I met the love of my life, who is not only my biggest love, but also my best friend! It clicked from the first moment and it was very clear that we were meant for eachother. 

2016, the year I met another great love. A love that came with the package, but wouldn’t have missed for the world. A very precious lady, Harmen’s daughter. Harmen and I look forward to make her the best big sister there is and give her all the love she wants and deserves. 

2016, the year where I got to experience naturism. Something I never thought about. When I met Harmen, I told him it was something I would never do! But my curiosity won, so I asked Harmen if he wanted to take me to Flevonatuur to find out what naturism was for myself. And I loved it! Since that moment there was no way back for me. And now I’m promoting naturism together with Harmen. 


2016, the year where I had to say goodbye to certain people, who I thought cared about me, but eventually didn’t. After a lot of stress about that I decided to let it go. Which really helped because I don’t care about it anymore. Who doesn’t accept me for who I am can f*ck off. 

2016, the year where we met a lot of new friends. Naturist friends and textile friends. It feels great to be loved so much. We love you all!

2016, the year I found out what it’s like to really miss someone. I never knew it was this hard to not be around the person you wanna be with 24/7. The missing will stay every week of our lives, but talking with eachother by phone or whatsapp everyday, makes it a bit more acceptable. 

2016, the year where I learned to give and receive love. I never experienced this much love. I learned what it’s like to never have a fight or an argument and what it’s like to think the same about almost everything. It’s also the year I found out that a lot relations aren’t like ours and that there’s always something wrong in those relations. Never thought I could recognize these things. 

2016, the year we found out that we are pregnant. We are so lucky this year, I hope 2017 will be just as great as this year. It will atleast be the year that our little one will be born. 

2016, the year where I left the area where I was born and grown. Something I never thought, I always said I would never leave that place. But my love for Harmen won and together with him I’m really making it a home instead of a house. 

This are just some of many reasons that 2016 really was my year. I wouldn’t have missed it for the world. And all the people I love made this possible. Many thanks for that. I love you all. Let’s hope 2017 will be just as great!

Best wishes and happy new year! ❤️

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