My POV at life

How naturism changed my life.

After being bullied for a small 14 years during my youth and a slow process of finding and accepting myself, plus a wide interest in a lot of things, I came across naturism 10 years ago. A lot of things naturism is about, like respect people, animals & nature were one of the main reasons. I knew it was practiced mostly in the nude, but since I already accepted myself for who I was at that time, the being nude wasn’t really a problem for me.

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So I jumped right in and joined a very good friend, which is also naturist and a second mom to me, to naturist resort Flevonatuur in the Netherlands. From the first second I arrived there it felt like home coming and my missing puzzle piece was found.

My interest in naturism grew and developed a lot these last 10 years, but not only that changed a lot. I think the biggest change in my life was my point of view at life. We are living in an era where time is money and money and status is more important then people. People that need help are left behind, people that don’t need help are overwhelmed with stuff they don’t need but also don’t decline. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a people person, I love people and I’m interested in them. The real them. It’s just the way people act these days what annoys me. The negativity and hate that’s in them lately. Open a news website and read the comments at stories that have the subject immigration for instance. So much hate to people they don’t know, they don’t know their story, their history, their motivation nothing. They just spill their guts on social media without even thinking or reading what they’re saying. I blame modern media for the most part of this by spreading fear and false information. But that’s no excuse for turning of your brain and just typ the most negative things you can think of.

In the end it’s all about giving and receiving respect. I always ask myself the question, can you look in the mirror before you go to bed and say ( and believe ) that you’re a good person? The problem with this is, that the majority of the people don’t like themselves. They don’t like their job, they don’t like their family and friends and most of all they don’t love themselves. Instead of making a change they just keep going on and on like this for years and keep building up that negative vibe they’re in.

When you look at naturists, there’s a lot of respect between them. They don’t judge people by what they represent but by who they are. And even then it’s not really judging. Live and let live. They literally know everyone is the same because there’s nothing they can hide. Not even theirselves cuz when you’re at a naturist resort or a nude beach, yourself is all you have to offer. There’s no rich or poor, no success or fails. But there is a Paul or a Jenny, a Rick or a Samantha. There are just persons. Real persons. Living persons. With a suit named skin. And that skin, no matter what color it is, is the same for everyone and everywhere. A female nipple isn’t any different then a male nipple, tho male nipples are accepted in public while female nipples aren’t. I talked with a lot of people about that, male and female, and the majority of the people that are against public female nipples give as reason that ” it’s sexual “. Well no it isn’t. They’re put there for a reason, feeding your children. And yes I know it’s an erogenous zone aswell but so are ears. You wanna cover up ears aswell? The point I’m trying to make is that the world isn’t as black and white as you might think.

I’m posting this and as you probably already noticed you can see my butt ( funny fact: did you know my butt is made out of the same cells and materials as the rest of my body? It’s really true, look it up ). Facebook is a very strange medium. ( Sidenote: When I wrote this it was a Facebook post first ) You can post violence, wars, blood, animal cruelty, filthy words, etc. but what you can’t post is skin that usually is covered up. Pictures of breastfeeding were removed and called ” sexual content “. This is the world we live in today. It’s okay to show which awful things are taking our lives, but it’s not okay what kept us alive the first most important period of our life.

I’m not asking you to agree with me, I’m only asking you to love yourself for who you are. I’m not saying I never made a mistake or that I know what’s best for you. I’m human, surely I do make mistakes and I don’t have the wisdom to say how you should live your life. What I do know, is how you could make it easier for yourself on this big planet and more enjoyable. We’re at a moment where the world needs more love and what a great way to achieve that in the first place by loving yourself. Also I’m asking you to think before you speak, especially on social media. I know the anonymity makes it easier to say things you would say offline but that doesn’t justify it.

Don’t judge people before you talked with them. Or even better, don’t judge them at all. Embrace your body, it’s the only one you got. Don’t like your job? Switch jobs. Don’t like your friends? Make new ones. I know it sounds very easy. It’s not. But when you do it, it’ll make your life so much easier. We’re born without judgement. Without hate. Without shame. These are all things that are taught to us. Only question you have to ask yourself is do I really wanna spent my time on earth trying to live other people’s lives or do I wanna live my own life before it’s over. So step outside that box and make a change. For yourself, for your surrounding and for the sake of this world. It’s the world we leave behind for our kids. Don’t let them pay for our stupid mistakes and narrow thinking. There’s more inside you then you think. Embrace it, don’t care what other people will think or say because in the end you’ll see that it doesn’t matter what others think about you. It’s about what you think about yourself.

Love yourself like I love myself. I know you can do it.

Thank you ❤️

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Diary of a home naturist

Chapter 13: The best weekend of our life, our first mini-vacation together! #ClothingOptional

Wow people, what an amazing weekend did we have. As I mentioned in an earlier blog, we visited the island Vlieland. And even though we thought weather would be crap ( it was when we left our home ), we actually had sun all weekend! 


We arrived around 8.30am at the port of Harlingen and 30 minutes later the ferry left main land behind us. It’s about a 1,5 hour trip with the ferry to Vlieland. Because our hotel was only 1,5 kilometer from the port of Vlieland, we decided to walk instead of renting some bicycles. Our feet regret that decision very much haha. We walked a lot this weekend. Well… a lot for us, people that don’t walk a lot. But I’m very sure that we walked at least 20 kilometers this weekend. 

 

Anyhow, we arrived at the hotel and even though check-in usually is around 3 pm, we had the luxury to enter our room immediately. Because this weekend was for just the two of us and no kids were with us, Santana had to collect her breastmilk, otherwise her breasts would explode! Luckily the people at the hotel were nice enough to offer her some room in the fridge to keep it fresh enough to bring home for Jaxson. So thumbs up for that. 


When that was done and all our stuff was in the hotel room we decided to go to the beach. We read on the internet that public nudity is allowed on all beaches on Vlieland with the exception of the secured area between beach pole 50 and 51. All the rest of the beaches is clothing optional so that’s awesome! We found a nice quiet spot in the area of beach pole 52 and even though we were the only 2 people that went naked ( with the exception of people changing in to swimming clothes and vice versa ), nobody made an issue of it. Nobody laughed, nobody said anything, nobody cared actually. Why couldn’t it be like this everywhere is what we asked ourselves. We did however get robbed on the beach though. Someone stole my bag of Doritos. We call him Sjaak and his picture is right here. If you are Sjaak, or know Sjaak, please report him to the local authorities. 


How is that possible you ask? Well, Santana had a very creative idea. She wanted to collect sand and shells from the beach. With all that she would make a nice souvenir at home. So after we put some sand in two little bags, we left our spot for the search for shells. And right at the moment that I decided to go back because we had enough shells, Sjaak took his chance and grabbed the Doritos from the bag that we forgot to close. 


We witnessed it and couldn’t do anything about it lol. Luckily he didn’t damage Santana her phone, that was in the bag aswell. Oh well, wise lesson learned. After enough beach time we packed our things and walked back to the hotel… with a small detour for some new Doritos. 


When we got back at the hotel Santana started collecting milk again, which was a lot after that long time on the beach, in the meantime I took a shower. When Santana also had a shower and we both got dressed, we went back in to town to get something to eat. We decided to go to the only pizzeria on the island. Unfortunately it wasn’t one of the best ones we visited in our lives. And because my pizza had a lot of grease on it, it directly started flirting with my Crohn’s disease. So after a long ( and just in time ) toilet visit back in the hotel everything went back to normal luckily. That’s when you realize that diseases like Crohn’s don’t go on vacation. More reason to watch my food even more then I already did. 


The next morning we had a walk towards the island’s lighthouse. Not the most beautiful one I’ve seen, but it’s just something that you do when you visit an island. Well… at least when I visit an island. After that, we did some groceries and had something to drink at one of the local restaurants. 


After that we visited the local museum where you can find a lot of history about the island, stuff that’s found on the island, including this massive whale, you can stroke some small sharks and stingrays and they had an extra exhibition about the island during WWII. We both love museums like this, so we had the time of our life. The planning was to go on another activity after the museum ( watching seals on the coastline with a special off-road truck ), but unfortunately we were at the wrong place so we couldn’t make it in time. Because we paid in advance and it was our last day on the island, I contacted the company that organizes these trips. They didn’t do refunds, but we can use the tickets on our next visit. 


So instead of doing that, we had some unexpected time for ourselves. And because we were a bit disappointed by our own mistake and because our feet were also getting tired, we decided to get our bags and walk back to the harbor. We had a little snack on our way aswell and when that was done, we walked the last bit. We sat down in the harbor and didn’t move from our spot untill the ferry arrived. A beautiful, loving, romantic weekend came to an end and all that was left of it, was looking at the island while we were leaving the port of Vlieland, towards home. With our hearts filled with new memories and the joy of seeing Jaxson again after 2 days…


Talk to you guys soon ❤️. 

Oh yeah, I said I would do a blog about Natupop, but because of the rain, the temperature and the fact that the music was too loud for the kids, we spend the day at the indoor pool on Flevonatuur. Very lovely day with friends and loved ones, but not enough blog material to make an interesting blog about it. 

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My POV at life

Where did that Dutch naturist couple from WordPress go? *Silence explained*

First of all: We are still alive and kicking! It just have been extremely busy lately. As you all know, Jaxson is almost 3 months now. Since 2 weeks he’s able to sleep 12 hours at night so our night rest ( and especially Santana’s night rest ) is slowly coming back. I’m pretty much all day tired because of the Crohn’s disease which is taking a lot of energy. And even though I try to sleep as much as possible and taking some extra vitamins D, the lack of energy and the feeling of being tired is not becoming less. Guess I have to learn to live with it. At least they didn’t see a need ( yet ) to start taking medication because it’s very quiet at the moment. Yayy for that!


So why no blogs you probably ask. Well one reason is that I’m working a lot lately. The only 2-day weekends that I have are the ones when I have my daughter. The other weekends I’m working Saturday or Sunday. When I’m working saturdays I start early the next Monday, when I work Sunday I’m done working late the Friday before. So yeah, not a lot of free time and the time that I have, I like to spend that with my family at the moment. Because of being so tired lately it’s very easy to get some down moments when you’re away from home a lot. And every time I talk to santana or get pictures or videos from her or Jaxson, I just want to go home as fast as possible. It really hits me hard lately, I think you can even call it homesickness, something I’ve never experienced ever before in my life. 


And haring these moments of feeling down, really effects my creativity. The urge to write is very low, the ideas for our online comic even lower. Luckily I still have some existing ideas that will be worked out soon, when the technical issues are solved. So yeah, I guess the real main reason for the lack of being active online is simply the fact that I want to be a lot with my family at the moment. That’s all that matters. But does that mean the end of BareThoughts? In a nutshell? No it doesn’t. We got some great things coming up that I really want to share with you guys. We got Natupop coming up this weekend and the first weekend of August we are visiting the island Vlieland, where it’s allowed to be naked on 80% of the island’s beach. So can’t wait for that! There is also a thing going on lately here in the Netherlands when it comes to people doing sexual things on nudebeaches. Cities and police are working hard to clean up the beaches from people that are doing this by writing high penalties and even send some of them to court. I’ll follow closely and when I think I have enough to write about it, I will. 

Just keep checking our channels once in a while and please respect our choice to spend our small time together. When there is more time to spend on the blog, we will. 

Love you all and talk to you guys soon ❤️

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My POV at life

#YourNudeOnStory: Santana’s Story

If you want to get to know santana a bit better, then read this interview she gave to cloptzone

Clothing Optional

Hey friends, we’re back with another edition of #YourNudeOnStory, where we sit down with fellow nudists/naturists, and share their stories as part of our mission of positively promoting naturism and body acceptance. Today, we say hello to Santana in the Netherlands and get to hear her story on getting introduced to the nude life, Santana thanks for joining us.

So Santana, I understand you are still fairly new to the nudist scene—how did it all start for you, what drew you to try naturism from the start? My boyfriend Harmen already was naturist when I met him. He talked with so much enthusiasm about it that he triggered my interest more than I imagined in the first place. So much that it was me that asked him if he could take me to his favourite resort one day.

What reactions did you get when people found you were a nudist?

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Health update Harmen

Today we got the official confirmation that I’m diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. This is something that can’t be cured, only controlled with the use of medication and some drastic life changes. From what I was told I have a pretty heavy form of it so I have to change a lot of things that I’m used to do for years. I have to stop smoking, change the way I eat and what I eat, take medication and take more rest ( sleeping hours ). Also there is a chance I have to go to the hospital some times or in the worst case, get an operation. Luckily I’m still able to do my job, the medication I’m going to use is allowed in traffic. 


And even though this will stay the rest of my life an ongoing thing, which will effect not only me, but also santana, we are thinking very positive about our future. As you all know we are both very optimistic people and focus on the things we can still do in combination with this disease, instead of looking at the offers we have to bring. 

I announced this earlier today on our twitter and the reactions were overwhelming. It’s great to see so much love from our followers, a lot of them follow us for years now, some of them just a few days, but the love and the message you’ve all send out to us was the same and very welcome. That’s why I like to say to all of you, that even though I will have to bring a lot of offers to find a way to live with Crohn, I won’t stop with fighting for the future of naturism worldwide. I won’t stop fighting for a better self image of any insecure people and I won’t stop fighting for more spreading of love, faith and joy. We keep on blogging for you in the future, we keep making comics for you and we keep listening to your questions, doubts or issues. Because the support you guys give us is really giving us a lot of strength and love which is hard to put in to words. Just take me for my word that we really appreciate it from the bottom of our hearts. 

Thanks for all the support, interest and loving messages. Talk to you guys soon ❤️. 

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My POV at life

Our short, but lovely, first visit to nude beach ” Ellerstrand “. 

Well… apparently there’s a nude beach close to our home. And I didn’t even know! It only takes a short 30 minute drive to the beach, 15 minutes faster then a visit to naturist resort Flevonatuur. 


It was over 30 degrees Celsius this Saturday and I had to work all day. It’s really frustrating to work on hot days like that, especially when you see other people enjoying the sun with their loved ones. Santana did some research and discovered that there was a nude beach nearby and suggested we would visit it if I didn’t come home too late. We checked some reviews and they weren’t all very positive, but because we really needed to enjoy the sun without clothes and our garden isn’t ready for that ( it’s a real big mess at the moment ), we decided to go. It couldn’t get any worse like the things we saw on the beach in Hoek van Holland right?


I arrived at home around 6 pm, so after a quick bite we packed our things and drove off to the unknown. It was indeed a 30 minute drive and looking at the cars, parked next to the street, there would be a nice amount of visitors. For a beach that’s not at sea it’s a pretty Long Beach. We first tried to find a nice place close to the water, but there were a lot of mosquitos there so we moved to another spot more to the left. We were sitting 10 meters from a group of people, men and women, that were having a little barbecue. Because we didn’t want to intrude, we simply did our thing and kept our distance. 


But 5 or 10 minutes later 2 people from their group came to us to take a look. We quickly found out that it’s very rare to see some young people on this beach. They all disappeared these last few years. Something you see a lot on Dutch nude beaches unfortunately. We kept talking and discovered that this group is coming here for years. Some of them even 30 years! It’s a group of eleven people from different ages. The oldest one was 82, a very lovely man, the youngest one was somewhere begin 30. The man and woman that visited us were a couple and they invited us to the group. But they would understand if we didn’t because we just arrived and Jaxson also was with us. After about 15 minutes we packed our things and walked towards them. We got a warm welcome from all of them and they all started talking all at once, simply because they don’t see a lot of new people on this beach, especially young people. They kept offering food from the barbecue, but because we just ate we had to decline it every time. We did accept a cool drink however, because it was still warm. 


They told us they all came from different places but that some of them come here every day. In the years it became a real close group of friends that simply enjoy life they way it’s supposed to be. We mentioned the reviews on the internet and they told us those things happened sometimes but on another part of the beach. The part where we were sitting was left alone by pervs and other people with wrong intentions. It also was the first nude beach we visited where they had a toilet and a shower, something you don’t see very often. After a while it was cooling down and we decided to go home, with the promise that we would come back pretty soon and then for a full day. So to be continued. 

Talk to you guys soon ❤️

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#Freethemilknipple

Hundreds or maybe even thousands of years ago there was an amazing invention made by Mother Nature herself. Breasts. With this new feature women were able to feed their new born children so they wouldn’t starve to death. Humanity was excited worldwide. Finally they were saved from an awful future image where human beings would extinct. Finally they found a way to feed their children so they could grow up and see the world. What a wonderful time was that. Mothers all around the globe were feeding their children every possible moment of the day. At home, when they were outside aswell. Even when they were in the middle of their village with other women while their men were hunting for food. 


But then one day, I remember it like it was yesterday, everything changed. One of the husbands got sick and he and his wife went to the local medicine man. After a long session, what cost them a total price of 3 chickens, a goose and a sunflower ( which was very expensive in that time ) the medicine man told the husband to drink some mother milk 3 times a day as a cure. Off course they were a bit surprised. Isn’t mothermilk for babies, is what they asked themselves. But hey, who’s gonna doubt anything a medicine man says. And especially for that price! So they went home and tried it out the next day. 

While drinking the milk, something was happening with the husband behind his leaf. He was getting excited. A lot. And not because of the milk. But because of the breast. He told all his friends about it and they also tried it out with the same result. The world would never be the same since that accidental discovery. 

Unfortunately. 

Because since that day people have been sexualizing women breasts on a daily base. Companies, websites and a lot of other people use that sexualizing of breasts to make a lot of money. What people are forgetting however, is what breasts are really made for. Feeding babies. And people are so brainwashed today that it’s almost impossible to feed your baby outside of your own home. People get mad at mothers if they are feeding their baby in public. Tell them to leave. Tell them to cover it up. Did they really forget that they’re alive because they got food the same way when they were a baby? How is it possible that the most natural thing in the world, breastfeeding, has become a taboo? Especially in a world where some of the most dangerous people are world leaders, where children are blown up at a concert, where people are still starving of hunger, where racism, slavery, child abuse and all other bad stuff still exists? How is it possible that in a world like that, breastfeeding is the real danger for the majority of people? Did I really miss a memo about that? I guess some of the Indians in the jungle did. Because there they still know what breasts are made for. There it’s possible to feed your child without any issue. They even respect the mother for doing it. They’re thankful for life and celebrate life. I hope they will never get the memo that it’s a bad thing. Because they are still honoring the invention from Mother Nature for what it’s made for. 

Day in, day out. 

  

Talk to you guys soon ❤️. 

Our loving thoughts go out to all the innocent victims and their families of the tragic event in Manchester. Stay strong Britain. 

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